tonight josh is out with his friends, watching the charger's game and playing poker. that means that i get to have an evening alone. since we've only been married for 7 months and are still each other's favourite person to hang out with, evenings alone are rare and i quite enjoy them when they come around. my schedule of events tonight include the following necessary ingredients: lovely bath with bubbles, bath pillow, candles and norah jones, dvd of the type that josh would be less than thrilled to watch (romantic comedy, to be precise), and leftover christmas chocolates--the ones that the ants didn't get to.
as much as i think evenings alone are great--and somewhat necessary, i also sometimes kind of wish that once in awhile i could go on a girls' night out, like i used to. since being married i have had 2 girls' nights so far. the first doesn't really count, as it turned out to be quite horrid and awful. i was invited by a girl i kind of knew, to go to her place for a party where a bunch of women get together and eat food and chat and someone sells things. i went, meaning to be social and meet people, and ended up trying my best not to look too pathetic as i was the only person who knew no one, and also the only person who had forgotten to bring any money to purchase the stuff that they were selling. i was ignored by everyone except for a very sweet and talkative girl named kristi, who ended up inviting me to my second girls' night out. this time it was dinner and a movie with kristi and her two friends. i had a wonderful time, but apparently, they did not, since that was back in september and i haven't been invited to do anything with them since.
for awhile after that night i pondered the unspoken rules of friendship. when becoming friends with someone, is it proper etiquette for me to call a few days later and say how much i enjoyed myself and invite her to do something else? or should i wait longer? to be honest, i felt a little like i was dating all over again. which was not how i wanted to feel, nor how i wanted to go about making friends. since then, kristi and i chat now and again after church and have decided to start a church library together. starting a church library with someone is nothing like being invited on a girls' night out, but for now it will have to do. i just miss my friends back home and the easy, natural way i could be myself with them and call them up without wondering if they liked me back. with friends, i value quality rather than quantity, and i have recently come to the conclusion that quality friendships take time. so i will wait. and while waiting, cherish my long distance friendships all the more.
~heidi (about to lose her cares in billows of scented bubbles)
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