i just wanted to quickly say thanks for all of the advice! i honestly knew that by asking for advice, i was opening the flood gates, but i was so ready for anything else to try. since that day (i guess that was one week ago) things have improved. i got the baby bjorn out of the closet (for some reason, i thought that he would only fit in it when he was older) and have worn him around the house...he is usually pretty content in there and *bonus* i can actually make myself lunch at the same time! i did find gripe water at the health food store, but they wanted $14 for a tiny little bottle, so i got the drops instead for $5 can't remember what they're called, starts with an "M" i'm glad i have them on hand, but i really don't think his problem is gas, since when i gave him some, the taste kind of startled him into silence, then he picked up where he had left off with his crying, and no burps came out. i think the most helpful advice was just telling me to relax. i can get kind of stressed out and sleep deprivation certainly doesn't help with that. i'm keeping the routine idea in the back of my head, but kind of doing what he wants right now. most of the time that means feeding him as soon as he wakes up and also before he'll fall asleep. at this point i don't mind feeding him to get him to sleep; at least he's quiet when he's eating!
the doctor's appointment went well. he now weighs 8lbs 12oz, which is over 2 lbs more than his weight 3 weeks prior (he was down to 6-10 before my milk came in) and so the doctor was very happy. when i described what had been happening with tristan, he said it just sounds like the fussy period that most babies have in the evenings and encouraged me to keep trying new things, like taking him for a walk in his stroller before bedtime. he has had a few very good days in a row, where he basically hasn't cried at all! i was able to enjoy the annual scottish tea at my mother in law's on saturday, josh and i went to a superbowl party on sunday, and he pretty much slept through everything. when he did wake up, he was content just to look around at everything.
oh yes, and he's just started to smile! it's still kind of shy and hesitant, but it melts my heart. he's very vocal as well, cooing and babbling, so we like to "talk" to each other. he tells the best stories.
i do wish that i was able to blog more, but i've been taking advantage of his nap times to take a nap myself...either that, or get some sort of work done in the house. i do have a couple of blogs that i'm wanting to post soon, not so baby related. will try to get to it. so again, thanks so much, you all have no idea how good it feels to have all of this support and to know that i'm not in this boat alone.