i've spent the past 2 days trying to combat this issue on my own, with the help of the baby whisperer website, but nothing seems to work. so now, my dear blogger friends, i'm giving you the opportunity to bombard me with advice
so, he hasn't napped in 2 days. he slept for about 20 min on thursday and an hour and a half (which seemed like a miracle) yesterday. as you can imagine, sleepless days lead to fussy nights. (i was trying to calm him from 10.30pm-2am on thursday night)
here's what i've tried:
pat & shush (as per baby whisperer) which leads to me patting and shushing, kneeling next to his crib until his next feed...with him crying nearly constantly. =no sleep
meeting his needs and then letting him "cry it out". i had a hard time doing this one (as per babywise) so i set myself a time limit. 5 min. at first, then i let him cry for 10 min which nearly killed me. he just kept on crying. =no sleep
nursing him to sleep (which is an extra feed) and then quietly putting him in his crib asleep. he sleeps for about 20-30 min and then wakes up crying.
driving him around...tried this yesterday. he sleeps in the car, but wakes up as soon as i stop the car at home, no matter how long i've driven for.
the last thing i just tried out of sheer desparation was to just hold him in my arms and keep a blanket over his eyes to block out any light, patting him in a heartbeat rhythm. he fell asleep for 30 min. woke up because by that time it was time for his next feed already!
when i try to get him to fall asleep in his crib, i do the wind down with the routine..swaddle, sing a little song, pray a little prayer, then lay him down. when he starts to cry i put his pasi in, but he always ends up spitting it out in order to wail his loudest.
baby whisperer would tell me that i'm not getting his cues right and missing that window..that i should be putting him down sooner. i've tried putting him down as soon as i see his first yawn (which is often only 45 min after he's woken up, right after a feed with next to no awake time) and i get the same results.
babywise would tell me that i'm not letting him cry it out long enough; that 20 minutes or more of crying would be a reasonable amount of time. well, i simply don't think i have it in myself to allow that. his cries get more and more dispairing, sometimes he chokes and coughs, and he seems to be getting more wound up rather than winding down. i honestly can't bear to hear it and i would rather try anything else.
without his naps, he isn't the pleasant little baby that he normally is. i had hoped that this would be only temporary, due to his vaccinations on wednesday, but now i'm not so sure. and no, i really don't think it's gas, since once he is out of his crib, he is pretty much happy to just look around, even though he is tired. he doesn't fuss too badly unless he's in his crib.