Monday, March 05, 2007

just for fun...


dug this picture up from my scrapbook that my mom put together for me (reading what she wrote about me when i was a baby is fascinating!) anyhow, i always have to say "a little fuzzy due to no scanner" but i think you can pretty much make it out. this is a group of pioneer girls out for a bikeride. there's me all smiley with my fluffed out bangs and pink sweatpants in the middle. and one to the right is.....shannon!! that's mainly why i had to post it, i didn't realize i had a picture of us as kids. and then there's aimee second from the left. funny, i can name every one of these girls except for one. makes me kind of wonder what they're up to now. oh yes, and please take note of all of the neon colored shoelaces. ahhh, nostalgia!


well, i have to say that NOW i TOTALLY know why people tell you to make sure and have date nights when you become parents. josh and i had our first official date yesterday and it was fabulous. i say "official" because when tristan was only days old and my mom was here, she and josh's mom watched tristan for an hour in the evening while we went for coffee. we just sat there, not saying much and all i could think of was how bad it hurt to sit down and how long before we could go home so i could make sure tristan was okay. so that night doesn't count. yesterday was a whole nother story. we had "booked" josh's parents weeks in advance, so it was also kind of nice to look forward to. we dropped him off after church, i fed him real quick, then we grabbed lunch and went down the hill to see a matinee, getting starbucks before going in. it just felt so FREEING to be sitting in the car with my husband, not worrying about tristan in the back seat, or calculating the hours until his next feed. we saw "music and lyrics" which was the perfect kind of movie to see, just light and fun. on our way back home, we called to see how he was doing and found out that he had been sleeping for 2 hours!! they told us to take our time, so we came to our house and i got to enjoy a lovely shower & a glass of wine and then we just enjoyed some cuddle time together...no ear out for the monitor, no need to whisper. it was just divine. (by the way, jennifer, i can see you totally gagging throughout this post and i do apologize) when we went to pick him up, tristan was fresh from a bath and asleep in his gran's arms. i'm sure he didn't even know we had left him. we stayed for dinner, then home and put him to bed at 7:00 and he slept till 9:00 this morning. (well, he woke up to eat 4 times at night, but i'm focusing on the positive here)
i'm trying a combination of your suggestions for helping him nap. i find that if i put him down in his crib fussy, he will not calm down for anything and gets even more worked up if i try to keep him there. so the key is to put him down calm. today i put him down after a small snack feed and sang "Jesus loves me" about 10 times. i put a blanket over the window and turned the radio static up louder. he was awake when i put him down, and ohmygosh, he's been in there for 30 minutes and i haven't heard one peep yet! so, things are looking up, i'm not feeling bad anymore for holding him if he wants it, like you all say they're tiny babies for such a short time and i'm trying to just enjoy him instead of stressing about whether i'm doing the right thing or not. i never realized just how uptight i really was until i became a parent! so working on and praying about me just calming down is really helping the most, as are your sweet
comments. thanks so very much for taking the time to offer your words of advice and encouragement. i'm thinking of creating a bumper sticker that reads "blogging keeps me sane" anyone want to buy one?

12 comments:

Rose said...

Sounds like he's doing better which means you're doing better, these things just tend to work themselves out, with many different formulas. That is SO NICE that you got a date night with Josh...and yes so nessacary. What a real treat, and no need to apologize for that to anyone!

Grandma J. said...

Second date coming up in two weeks - start looking forward to it - I am because I get to Cuddle Tristan with Grandad while you and Josh do whatever you wanna do. Whooeee. Can Hardly wait.
Life group prayed for you again Heidi, now I thank God for hearing and caring. Love you.

Meredith said...

We have scheduled dates once a month. Where a friend takes the boys. Once a month I look after her kids so she can go on a date with her huband too. It makes a difference.
Glad to hear it's all starting to work out.

Yokoso~ said...

Wow! That's me there I believe in the photo too Heidi...the one with the Nordco bike! Is that the one you did not have a name for??? I vaguely remember Pioneers but I was in it too...so fun!

Yokoso~ said...

In case you can't tell the Nordco bike was the one beside you Heidi...so neat!

Anonymous said...

omy! awesome yellow teddybear shirt, black spandex and yellow slouch socks. And i think I'm twice your size there heidi. :)

Date nights are important. We didn't have anyone to look after the kids and Donnie works long hours. In the first two years of parenting I went out twice. I don't suggest it.

Also, yippee on finding something that makes both you and Tristan calm. Enjoy that baby.

Lee said...

so happy to hear you sounding so happy and upbeat!
Way to go. You are doing awesome!

Z-Mama said...

Yay for dates! I need more of those...

And what a cute pic...I love it!

Jennifer said...

Geez you're my cousin who brought me to Christ...as if you could do anything wrong :)
(incase you've forgoten how thankful I am for you)

No need to apologize for telling your story.

heidi said...

yeah, yokoso, if you're the one on the right side of shannon on the bike, you're the one i didn't know the name of. small world, eh?

Yokoso~ said...

Wow it sure is a small world, Heidi! WOW, I would have never remember this if it were not for that picture!!!

Just curious, but was Running Wildly in that picture too?

Demara~

heidi said...

nope, rw didn't go to my church until later.