i find it interesting that, besides the post that tristan had arrived, the ones that brought forth the most comments were the posts where i desperately asked for advice on how to deal with the newborn i wasn't quite sure i had asked for. so, feeling a little greedy for comments, i'm asking for your advice once again. okay, so maybe i really do want advice, but seeing lots and lots of comments is always an ego boost as well ;)
my son has turned into a screamer. and i don't mean the kind of happy screams that come from toddlers being pushed on a swing. i mean all out, ear splitting screams that aren't in the least bit happy sounding. it all began about a month ago when he wouldn't get his way. he knows what the words "no touching" mean, and he's usually great about obeying them UNLESS he really, really wants to touch something. that something is usually a piece of equipment with all sorts of buttons, like our dvd player, for instance. he actually broke our dvd player by fiddling with it, even though he knew he shouldn't. thankfully, my hubby managed to fix it and now it is sitting waaay up high on top of our tv. however, even with the dvd player out of reach, he always manages to find things that he'd like to play with that he's not allowed to. (whoever invented an oven with the burner dials just above the oven door obviously didn't have kids.) and when we say "no", he very often balls his fists up, arches his back, and lets out a shriek that such a small person should not be capable of producing.
recently, these shrieking episodes of his have been getting more and more frequent. he shrieks when he's frustrated, like when he can't reach something. he shrieks when he wants my attention. and, just this morning he started shrieking for no reason at all. at 6:30 in the morning, nonetheless when most normal people are still asleep (he was up at 4:45 today). being that we live in a duplex and basically share a wall with the family next to us, i'm not too keen on the whole "ignoring him" idea.
so, here's what we've tried:
1. getting down on his level, and saying "shhhhh no screaming." quietly and calmly. this results in him screaming again, right in our face.
2. holding him tightly until he calms down and is no longer screaming. josh does this well, but i don't think its preventing him from screaming the next time he feels like it.
3. getting down on his level and saying "shhhh no screaming" and then giving his hand a little slap. this once resulted in him hitting my face and and he always starts screaming even louder.
4. ignoring him when he screams. this one only works for me when we're not in a public place because i cannot stand when other people let their children shriek and disrupt other people. it works okay, but i find i can't really be consistent about it.
okay, so those of you who gone through something similar, feel free to comment away! what worked for you? what didn't work? i know that many of you are just dying to tell others how to raise their children, and i'm giving you that opportunity right now. :)